Enough about periods already

I just saw the images to an article shared on Facebook about the 'Beauty of Periods' and I swear to god the image was of a woman sticking a bloody finger in her mouth. I didn't even bother with clicking on the article because a picture speaks a thousand words and that was says bullshit a thousand times. 

Let's just get to reality here, periods are not beautiful. I am a fully grown woman who, after thirteen years of menstruating and might I add fully accepting of this natural bodily function cannot, in any way look at a tampon and think "wow, isn't that beautiful" Really! C'mon it's like looking a turd and thinking it's a work of art. 
Shedding the lining of your womb is not an achievement nor is it something you need to take a photo of and share on social media, I struggled making these splayed out tampons look pretty so how anyone can snap a shot of some womb gunk and think it's wonderful is beyond me. 

It started off with that woman who decided to hang her blood stained sheets around for art reasons. Then there was that woman who snapped her flooded crotch and, with all due respect she had some good reasons but one shot of your bloodstained gooch was enough love! Now, there is someone, somewhere actually eating her blob and writing some wishy washy article about how the topic of menstruation is 'boycotted by the masses' - this is because there is nothing interesting about periods, there's no political message hidden in the lining of your womb, there's no mysogynistic agenda forcing women to stop talking about periods, it's not a sign that society has a long way to go before accepting women, it's because its pretty gross and bloody (excuse the pun) boring. 

Yes, it's natural, normal and blah blah but so is urinating, sneezing and salivating...do we need to take pictures of our snot covered tissues when we blow our noses to show the hidden beauty of the common cold? No, because there isn't any. 

A strong woman isn't one who photographs her fanny when she on, it's one who cracks on with it, who gets on with her day when it feels like her cervix is crushing her inside, it's one who rations her tampons because they're so frigging expensive, who accepts tummy rubs and chocolate because it's her prerogative to milk it every month for some TLC and, who can feel like she's going to die every month but not Instagram it or even mention it because she has better things to do.

Ladies, please put your lady bits away, stock up on sanitary wear and go and watch a film. I have my own period and don't want to see yours!


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4 comments:

  1. I cannot even begin to explain to you everything that's ignorant and narrow minded about this post.

    Comparing the beauty of your period to a turd only highlights your lack of intelligence. A turd represents waste, a period represents life and fertility. As someone has seen first hand how devastating and traumatic the inability to conceive can be, saying that shedding the lining of your womb is not an achievement is horribly insensitive. To many people in that position, having their period is symbolic of their ability to have children and nobody else has the right to take that joy away from them because talking about or seeing a natural bodily function makes them squirm. When we make it uncouth to discuss menstruation, we also make it uncouth to discuss infertility which is hugely damaging and shaming.

    As for urinating, sneezing and salivating, don't you see the biggest difference? Those things are just as natural as periods, but society doesn't shame those functions. Nobody ever puts people down for sneezing or usually even bothers to comment on it. Sneezing, like pooping, is a means of expelling waste from ones body and is unhygienic (albeit necessary) yet our society not only sympathises with people when they sneeze but has even developed an expression to bless them for it. Periods are not unhygienic yet society squirms and shames are the mere mention of it. It's so backwards.

    As poetic as your line 'there's no political message hidden in the lining of your womb' is, it couldn't be more false. What about tampon tax, the idea that basic menstruation hygiene products are taxed as luxury items while Jaffa cakes, herbal tea, edible cake decorations and exotic meats such as ostrich, crocodile and kangaroo are deemed necessities therefore don't have an VAT added at all? And going back to your earlier comparison of pooping vs. menstruating, incontinence products aren't charged VAT either, further eroding your poorly thought out point. How about the fact that judicial systems use menstruation as a benchmark of womanhood in deciding to send a trans woman to a men's prison, which later lead to her suicide? Or that in many countries, it is perfectly legal for women to be fired for becoming pregnant? Periods, the misunderstanding of them and what they present are very much political.

    Even derogatory terms like 'bloodstained gooch', 'pretty gross', 'some womb gunk' and 'please put your lady bits away' only fuel to the oppression of periods. You said 'there's no mysogynistic agenda forcing women to stop talking about periods' but obviously fail to see that your blog post is a perfect example of the misogyny all around us that shames people for discussing their periods.

    If you're a strong women like you claim to be, I cannot see why you would want to stop other people from celebrating their bodies. If you don't want to see it, don't look but what is to be gained from bash other people for loving themselves and accepting your body just because you can't? While we're on the topic, what gives you the right to determine what makes someone else a strong woman?

    You said you didn't even bother with clicking on the article because a picture speaks a thousand words yet you think it's bullshit? I've actually read your rebuttal post to the article you didn't bother reading yet felt informed enough to write about and I also think that's bullshit too. Ironic.

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  2. I completely respect your opinion however I believe that although there is boundaries ie. I don't want to actually see blood stained knickers etc. and that i think period pride is a good thing! Women should have the right to freely talk and share information about periods whether that be their own or just in general! Women are taught to believe that periods are disgusting and should be shamed for, when in fact it's just another normal bloodily function and although not pretty, it shouldn't be shamed! Spreading positive messages as regards to periods is important especially for younger girls who may just be starting out! I admit I don't find my period interesting but I do believe being period positive and having period pride is a good thing! And it should be shared more freely! Pigeon holing girls and their periods only makes the situation worse.

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  3. Completely with you! I don't need to see pictures of it to know what it is. Also, the only people it affects is other people dealing with them and I'm sure they know what it looks like.

    I have never felt shamed due to being biologically female and I think anyone who has been needs new friends. It can be embarrassing, painful or whatever, you get to choose how you feel about it. And I'm with you, I want to relax and be looked after! :)

    Of course I believe the body is an amazing thing, and the fact that we can house an actual human life is pretty incredible! But until I want that human life, I'd happily go without the monthly aggro! Or the pictures reminding me of what's to come!

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  4. I appreciate your argument, I don't love my period, I get the worst cramps and sometimes can't move - but I also appreciate the girls and ladies who openly and unashamedly talk about theirs. Menstruating is a perfectly natural bodily function, yet it's the only natural bodily function that is not talked about without shame and discomfort. From the time I first bought pads or tampons, I felt like I was doing something embarrassing, that everyone would know I was bleeding. It made me feel shameful, as it does to many other women and this comes from too many people shooting the topic down when it comes up in conversation. Girls are taught to hide away when they're on their period, and it's reinforced through society.

    Without getting too far into the finer details, yes there is a mysogynistic agenda forcing women to stop talking about periods. Our society is fundamentally patriarchal - generally men feel discomfort talking about a bodily function they do not experience (how many boys do you know that don't laugh or get weirded out around tampons or pads?), they accuse women of being on their period whenever we're the least bit assertive, as though it's something that turns us into less rational people. Tampon tax - sanitary products that we're told are essential to use during our cycles are deemed luxury goods. 'Essential luxury' what an oxymoron. Even phrases like 'deal with' and the one's you've used in your post are inherent of internalised misogyny - it's seen primarily as something gruesome or unpleasant to deal with (which mine are sometimes), but it shouldn't be the main response. Periods and menstruation are constantly demonised and those that are trying to reclaim it as a natural bodily function that shouldn't cause any more attention than sneezing or coughing or *sweating* shouldn't be shamed in doing that. In the world of advertising, there were disagreements over the fact that liquid should be used at ALL to show absorbency of pads - because we're conditioned to find periods or talking about periods uncomfortable.

    Removal of stigma is only accomplished by people openly talking about things that are stigmatised, and for me this is no different. Sure the images may not be 'beautiful', but they're normal. They're natural. They're a far cry from what the advertising giants (who are predominantly male) think being on your period is like. It removes the need for class separation in year 6 when the mere mention of menstruation happens. It removes the feeling of unnaturalness from girls who have terrible, terrible periods, because they feel that they can actually talk about it because someone else has started the conversation by 'photographing their fanny when they're on'.

    It might not be your cup of tea but please don't shame the women who are trying to naturalise the conversation.

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